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Imagine this, you're close with someone, let's take an example like you have a friend or maybe a boy/girlfriend, and you have a habit of talking to them on calls, meeting them daily, and you form a connection with them, but then, suddenly, boom! They stop picking up your calls, or pretend to be busy, or they start meeting someone else when they used to meet you; then maybe you've been ghosted.

But why does it happen? Or why do we do this? Why do we suddenly disappear from someone's life without a word?

Let’s dive into the psychology behind ghosting:

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🌫️ What Is Ghosting?

Ghosting is the act of suddenly cutting off all communication without explanation. It often happens in dating, friendships, or even work situations. One day you’re chatting; the next day, they’re gone — like a ghost.

🧠 The Psychology Behind Ghosting

1️⃣ Avoidance of Conflict and Discomfort :

Many people fear saying "no" or "I can't do this," or "I'm not interested" to anyone. They fear confrontation, or it won't sound good if they say no to them, so instead, they choose to ghost because, for them, it is the easiest way to avoid the conversation.

 Ghosting becomes a way to dodge uncomfortable feelings — a form of emotional escape.

2️⃣ Fear of Hurting Others (or Themselves) :

Another reason for ghosting can be to avoid hurting oneself or the other person. They think that if they say something that the other person may not like, they will hurt them, or maybe if the other person wants them to do something that they don't want to, then they choose to ghost, to avoid saying no to them directly.

But they don't realize that silence causes deeper pain.

3️⃣ The “Grass is Greener” Effect :

In today's generation, people have many options on dating apps or social media, so they think they've found someone better, or they don't want to commit, so they avoid them by ghosting.

It’s a symptom of modern “disposability culture.”

4️⃣  The "Out of Sight, Out of Mind" Trap :

Psychologically, when we don’t see or interact with someone regularly, they can fade from our mental landscape.

Ghosting often happens because people move on quickly, prioritizing the next new thing.

5️⃣ Anxiety and Attachment Styles :

Attachment theory offers insights here:

• Avoidant attachment types often ghost to avoid emotional closeness.

• Anxious attachment types may ghost impulsively after feeling overwhelmed. Understanding these patterns can help you see ghosting as a reflection of someone’s internal struggles — not your worth.

  
  

💔 How Ghosting Affects Both Sides

We understand why we ghost, but do we know how it affects the person who ghosted and the person who's being ghosted?

As a 'Ghoster' - they ghost someone, thinking it's a quick fix but without realizing how it's affecting the other person, which leads to unresolved problems, conversations, and hurting the other person.

As a person being 'Ghosted' - it creates insecurities, rejection, self-doubt, like What have I done that I'm being treated like this? This thought can be in their mind for a long time, which will affect them when they meet a new person.

🔄 Can We Break the Cycle?

Yes, it is possible to break the cycle. It starts with 'empathy and communication'. What if instead of avoiding the conversation, we talk about it? We should be brave enough to share feelings with each other, understand each other.

Next time, when you feel like ghosting someone, ask yourself?

1. Will it solve the problem?

2. What will happen to the other person when we ghost them? How much will it hurt them?

3. What if someone does the same thing to me?

4. What if I just communicate my feelings with kindness and clarity?

   
   

   🌫️ What To Do When Someone Ghosts You

When someone ghosts you, it hurts, you feel rejected, sad, and frustrated, which also leads to overthinking and self-doubt.  Here’s how you can handle ghosting with strength and grace:

1️⃣ Acknowledge Your Feelings

First, allow yourself to feel. It’s normal to feel hurt, sad, or frustrated when someone cuts off communication without explanation. Validate your emotions instead of suppressing them.

2️⃣ Don’t Chase After Answers

You may want to know the answer to why they ghosted you, but resist the urge to message them and ask why, because their silence is the answer.

3️⃣  Shift the Focus Back to You

Instead of obsessing over what you did wrong, focus on self-care:

🌿 Do something you enjoy.

🌿 Spend time with friends who uplift you.

🌿 Invest in hobbies or goals.

4️⃣ Learn and Grow

Ghosting can teach you:

• What communication style you value in relationships.

• That not everyone is emotionally available or ready for meaningful connection.

• The importance of choosing people who choose you.

5️⃣ Set Boundaries for the Future

If the person tries to reappear later (a.k.a. zombie-ing), decide if you’re willing to re-engage. Remember how their ghosting made you feel and honor your emotional well-being.

6️⃣ Let It Go (Even Without Closure)

Closure isn’t always something you get — sometimes, it’s something you give yourself. Trust that the right people will show up, and the wrong ones will fade away — and that’s okay.

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🌿 Final Thoughts

Ghosting may seem like an easy escape, but it leaves the other person in more overthinking. They blame themselves for your ghosting. So instead of ghosting a person, try to communicate with them even if it's hard for you, even if it may not sound good to them or hurt them, just be brave and make them understand. Otherwise, either way, you both will get hurt.

Let's be good human beings and not make sad, hurt ourselves or anyone!